Celebrating the wonderful ups and challenging downs of this journey called motherhood...
Have you experienced being at a point in your life where it feels everything is at a standstill and you're just a spectator looking at everything going on around you and not really having the power to change anything? You feel trapped and hopeless and depressed and anxious all at once!
Have you had these moments in your life? Have you ever felt stuck? What did you do about it? If you're still stuck, what are you doing about it?
Here's what I've been doing that's helping me cope with this phase in my life:
1. Seek inspiration
I saturate my mind with inspirational quotes, videos, and articles. I wake up with anxiety every single day. It's actually really worse in the morning right after I wake up. So what I do is I go to YouTube and watch inspirational videos that remind me to think positive and live in the moment.
2. Mindful meditation
I try to be present in the moment and not to think about the past or the future. The past is gone and the future hasn't come yet. So dwelling in either one just makes me all the more anxious and depressed. I try to look at the present moment and say, this is where I am now and I need to stay in the moment and appreciate the here and now.
3. Be grateful
Gratitude is a positive force that can quell any fear or anxiety if you really let it fill you up. I look around me and notice the things I'm grateful for. I have my son, family, friends, pets. I am alive and healthy. I am not in a war zone where I have to fear for my life. Sometimes we get so caught up in our problems and stresses in life that it's so hard to divert our attention to focus on the good things. But they're there. Notice them and be grateful for them. Don't take them for granted. Remember, a lot of people are in way worse conditions and would do anything to have the life you have. So be grateful.
4. Go out in nature
When I'm cooped up in the house doing nothing, it's easier to ruminate on negative thoughts and feed my anxiety. When I go out and feel the breeze on my skin and hear the birds chirping and the leaves of the trees swaying, it takes the edge off and makes me feel so much better. When I look up at the sky, it makes me feel like I'm one with the universe and that everything will work out.
5. Surround yourself with positive people
This is very important. It's so easy to get discouraged and down when the people around you are negative. You absorb their energy and frequency and become negative yourself. So be careful who you surround yourself with. Seek out those people who make you feel good, people who lift you up instead of bring you down. Your circle of influence is super important. I love surrounding myself with people who are positive and can see the good in everything. They help me change my perspective on things and help raise my frequency.
6. Focus on learning how to love yourself 100%
You may have gone through a phase in your life where you just lost all your confidence and self-worth. It's hard and it's painful. You feel lost and uncertain and you ask yourself, who am I anyway? I don't know who I am anymore. Why am I here? When you don't have faith in yourself anymore you have to do everything in your power to get that faith back. It's important. You go through life's journey with a lot of different types of people, they come and go, but the only permanent company you have is yourself. So be kind to yourself, love yourself, be your own best friend. Every day go look at yourself in the mirror and tell that wonderful person that you love him/her. Say beautiful, kind words to yourself. Tell yourself YOU ARE WORTHY! Your life depends on it.
7. Let go of things/people no longer serving you
This is very hard for me to do. I tend to cling to things and people that I know are not good for me or are not serving me. I have a hard time letting go. Are you like that too? If you are, I feel you. It's not easy. In fact, it takes real MENTAL STRENGTH and COURAGE to let go of things and people not serving us. If you can do that, kudos to you and good for you. Life is too short to waste on people or things that are just ruining your emotional state and slowing you down in life. Learn to let go and live free. Protect your PEACE of MIND, that's the most important thing.
8. Stop trying to control things, people, and events
It took me a long to realize that I have this tendency to try control things. It just gave me a lot of stress because sometimes I can't learn to accept things as they are. Learn to trust the universe and know that things will work out the way they're supposed to. Don't fight it. Allow things to fall into their own place and trust that the Universe is working for your own good.
9. Figure out your life's purpose
This is another thing I am having trouble with, but it's very important. Figure out your life's purpose. Do some self-reflection and really ask yourself, what do you want to do in your life? What are your passions? What makes you happy? Find your true calling. Ask yourself, if money weren't an issue, "what would I want to do for the rest of my life?" What gives you a sense of fulfillment? Once you've come up with the answer to that, congratulations. You can now start working towards your life's purpose. I know it's easier said than done, but once you know you're real purpose here on earth, everything becomes clearer. It's easier to let go of things that are not in line with your purpose. You can take baby steps, Rome wasn't built in a day after all. What matters is that you're working towards your purpose and you're being true to yourself.
10. Be of service to other people
When you're feeling anxious and worthless and depressed and stuck, maybe it's time to get out of yourself and your head and start thinking of ways to serve other people. They say helping other people with a genuine desire to help, is the best thing you can do to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Do a kind deed without expecting anything in return. You'll notice that everyone else has their own set of problems, their own set of fears and anxieties and they're just trying their best to live life, just like we all are. Some people even have it worse than you or I do. It's all about perspective.
Hope these steps help you in one way or another. There is support out there if you'll just look. You got this! We got this.